Should I Send Flowers to My Crush?
We’ve all been there: butterflies in the stomach; trouble finding the right words in conversation; feeling your heart skip a beat every time you see the girl (or guy) who has been occupying 90% of your thoughts. When you have a crush, it is simultaneously the most wonderful and most terrifying sensation in the world. It’s wonderful because it can make you feel like you are walking on air. It’s terrifying because your thoughts are plagued with the big “What if?” question. That is, “What if he/she doesn’t like me back?”
When you have a crush on someone, you also probably feel an urge to both shout your feelings from the rooftop and to keep them a secret. If you are leaning more toward the former emotion, then you might be on the verge of making a romantic gesture toward the object of your affection. Flowers are an easy, cute way to show how you feel without going too far and prematurely saying “I love you.” But should you send roses to your crush or is doing so a bad idea?
The Etiquette of Sending Flowers to Your Crush
There is nothing wrong with sending flowers to someone toward whom you have romantic feelings. However, unless you are fairly sure that your crush reciprocates these feelings, sending flowers can create an awkward situation. What if you send the flowers anonymously and your crush can’t figure out who sent them? What if you put your crush in a position where they feel they can’t respond to your gesture without hurting your feelings? These scenarios are just a few examples of what can happen if you send flowers without considering the ramifications.
In other words, sending flowers should not be the first thing you do to approach your crush. Strike up conversations. Spend time together—either with friends or one-on-one. Go on outings that could be classified as dates, even if you aren’t ready to label them as such. If you feel your feelings are reciprocated, take a risk and send flowers. Your gesture could be the spark necessary to turn your crush into a relationship.
You should also think about the recipient when sending flowers. Is she (or he) the one who would appreciate flowers? Just because you have a crush on someone doesn’t necessarily mean that they are a flowers type of person. Think about what your crush likes and build your romantic gesture around that, instead of just hoping for the best with flowers. A colorful bouquet will usually work on a girl who likes you, but as a romantic gesture, it is admittedly old-fashioned. Try to get a sense of whether she likes old-fashioned romance before you place the order.
As for sending anonymous flowers to your crush, it can be a playful, romantic thing to do if the recipient will know immediately who sent them. If you have a crush on a girl who you have only talked to once or twice, anonymously sending her flowers might only succeed in making her worry that she has a stalker or unwanted admirer.