We’ve all been there: butterflies in the stomach; trouble finding the right words in conversation; feeling your heart skip a beat every time you see the girl (or guy) who has been occupying 90% of your thoughts. When you have a crush, it is simultaneously the most wonderful and most terrifying sensation in the world. It’s wonderful because it can make you feel like you are walking on air. It’s terrifying because your thoughts are plagued with the big “What if?” question. That is, “What if he/she doesn’t like me back?”
When you have a crush on someone, you also probably feel an urge to both shout your feelings from the rooftop and to keep them a secret. If you are leaning more toward the former emotion, then you might be on the verge of making a romantic gesture toward the object of your affection. Flowers are an easy, cute way to show how you feel without going too far and prematurely saying “I love you.” But should you send roses to your crush or is doing so a bad idea?
- The etiquette of sending flowers to your crush
- The do’s of sending your crush flowers
- The don’ts of sending flowers to your crush
- Best bouquets to send your crush
- Other ways to show your affection
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The Etiquette of Sending Flowers to Your Crush
There is nothing wrong with sending flowers to someone toward whom you have romantic feelings. However, unless you are fairly sure that your crush reciprocates these feelings, sending flowers can create an awkward situation. Keep these three tips in mind to ensure you follow the etiquette of sending flowers to a crush.
1. Approach Your Crush In Other Ways First
When you have a crush on someone, it’s easy to get caught up in the idea of sending a bouquet. But if you’ve never met or spoken to your crush before, proper etiquette says not to send flowers as your first attempt at making a connection.
In other words, sending flowers should not be the first thing you do to approach your crush. Instead, build a solid foundation by:
- Striking up conversations. You’ll want to talk to your crush as often as possible, even briefly. That way, when you do decide to send them flowers, they’ll know that you care enough about their well-being and their feelings that you took the time to say something nice.
- Spending time together. Quality time is essential to fostering a connection. Spend time together in a natural and comfortable way for both of you, either with friends or one-on-one. Go on outings that could be classified as dates, even if you aren’t ready to label them as such. This will help establish a foundation for intimacy that you can build on later.
If you feel your crush reciprocates your feelings, take a risk and send flowers. Your gesture could be the spark necessary to turn your crush into a relationship.
2. Get a Sense of Your Crush’s Romantic Tastes
It would help if you also thought about the recipient when sending flowers. Just because you have a crush on someone doesn’t necessarily mean that they are a flowers type of person. You might even want to ask around and see if anyone knows anything about their romantic tastes before you pick out what to send them.
A colorful bouquet will usually work on a girl who likes you, but as a romantic gesture, it may appear old-fashioned. Try to understand whether she likes old-fashioned romance before you place the order.
3. Reveal Yourself as the Sender
As for sending anonymous flowers to your crush, it can be a playful, romantic thing to do if the recipient will know immediately who sent them. If you have a crush on a girl who you have only talked to once or twice, anonymously sending her flowers might only succeed in making her worry that she has a stalker or unwanted admirer.
Ideally, you should give the flowers to your crush in person. If not, the second best way to reveal yourself as the sender is through an accompanying note. Notes show that you care enough to take the time to write something personal, which is always a win in our book.
The Do’s and Don’ts of Sending Flowers to Your Crush
If you’re debating sending flowers to the girl you like, this list of do’s and don’ts will help you make a decision.
The Do’s of Sending Your Crush Flowers
When sending flowers to your crush, do send flowers if:
- You know they have a crush on you too. This is the safest way to know your act of kindness and affection will have your desired impact.
- You’ve started talking about making things official. If you consider yourself a sweet and thoughtful person by nature, it’s normal to want to send them flowers already. Doing so early on in the relationship will help them get to know the real you faster.
- You have a feeling your crush might feel the same way about you. Include a card that acknowledges the fact that you’re unsure, but that you wanted to express your feeling regardless. Most girls will not object to receiving a beautiful bouquet of flowers — especially from someone they know and maybe even like!
- A special occasion is coming up, like your crush’s birthday or Valentine’s Day. If you’ve started going on dates and feel that the connection is mutual, flowers for these occasions are appropriate.
- You know your crush has been stressed or working hard in their job or school. This is the perfect way to uplift them and show support.
The Don’ts of Sending Flowers
When sending flowers to your crush, don’t send flowers if:
- You know they don’t like you. This will make them feel uncomfortable. It doesn’t mean this person will never feel the same way about you, but you don’t want to rush things and scare them away.
- They already have a partner. Sometimes, our feelings can be so strong that we forget to use our judgment. If you send flowers to a girl in a committed relationship, it won’t send the right signals about who you are as a person.
- You didn’t get a response after sending a previous bouquet. If you send flowers once and you haven’t heard anything back from her, it’s important to respect her time and await a response. If you send a follow-up bouquet, you might come off as desperate. Remember, all things take time. Good things come to those who wait.
- Your crush is about to leave on vacation. If your crush is about to be gone for an extended period of time, chances are good that they won’t have the chance to enjoy the flowers while away. Instead, wait until after their vacation is over before you send them a bouquet.
- They have a pet at home that might get into the flowers. If your crush has a pet, consider how their furry companion might react to the flowers. Some flowers may be toxic to pets, so it might be a good idea to ask before you send a bouquet.
Best Bouquets to Send to Your Crush
Choosing the right flowers to send to your crush is a big decision. Believe it or not, different kinds of flowers send different messages. We think any of the below three options would be best:
- Red Roses: Our red roses send a classic message of love and admiration.
- Peachy Pink Bouquet: The Lucille Bouquet is elegant and bold. If you and your crush are just starting to date, this is an excellent option.
- Bright Pink: These pink flowers will say “Hey, I like you” but not in too serious of a manner.
Other Ways to Show Your Affection
If you think sending flowers might be too much, you can send your crush a letter. Tell her that you’ve noticed her and would love to get to know her better.
We also recommend going up to her in person and telling her how you feel. You’ll never know if she has a crush on you if you don’t tell her first. We know how hard it can be to be vulnerable, but you’ll feel better after you talk to her. You got this! Order a bouquet for the girl of your dreams today.