Many different flowers have romantic connotations, from roses to forget-me-nots. When you are in love or falling in love, few gifts seem quite as appropriate to express how you feel as flowers. But what is the etiquette behind dating and flowers? When should you give flowers? Which flowers should you give? What flower colors are best to convey what you are thinking? Read on to find the answers!

Should I bring flowers on a first date?

The answer to this question will vary depending on the couple and the date. Sometimes, picking your sweetheart up at her door for the first date with a bouquet in hand is a great way to make things special. Sometimes, it comes across as too formal or old fashioned.


So which is it for you? You need to think about your relationship to find the answer. If you have known each other for a while or hung out a few times, but are just now going on an actual “first date,” then flowers might be appropriate. If you met someone recently and asked them out—or if you are going on a blind date—then you might want to hold the flowers for a date or two to avoid coming on strong.

You should also consider the formality of the occasion. If you’ve planned a fancy dinner date, then flowers match the cinematic romance of the situation. If you are doing something less formal, like meeting for coffee, then flowers probably aren’t necessary just yet.

With that said, you should plan to bring flowers on an early date, just to make sure the person you’re seeing knows that you care about them. For less formal or less well-acquainted couples, the third date is the perfect time to spring the bouquet surprise.

When should I send flowers?

Dates aren’t the only time you should consider giving flowers to your new flame. In fact, you might get the most mileage out of sending flowers to your significant other’s home or workplace as a surprise. Birthdays, anniversaries, and Valentine’s Day are all obvious reasons to send or give flowers, but you should also plan to send flowers out of the blue after a few weeks or months of dating. Sending flowers “just because” can mean even more than sending them for a specific occasion, and can add some surprise in the romance of your relationship.

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If you and your significant other get in a fight, you might also send a bouquet of flowers to say sorry. However, you need to make sure that you aren’t only showing up with flowers after unhappy times. When used only for apologies, flowers can start to seem more as a crutch than as a romantic gesture. Giving a bouquet after a big blowout is fine, but try to keep your flower-giving habits linked to joyous occasions.

What color flowers are best for a dating gift?

The answer to this question depends a bit on the type of flower you are buying. For instance, with roses, red and pink are associated with romance. Red tulips are also linked with love, but tulips are considered symbols of “perfect love” regardless of their color. If you are concerned much about color and symbolism, do some Googling to find out what particular flowers represent. Alternatively, just learn her favorite color and her favorite flower and theme your bouquets accordingly.

Need help finding the right bouquet—whether for a first date or a special occasion? Call Ode a la Rose at (646) 660-5281 for assistance from our floral experts.

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